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Sex, Dating & Technology: 6 Foreplay Moves She Loves

Sex, Dating & Technology: 6 Foreplay Moves She Loves

Life has been a little chaotic lately but I'm back with a NEW post in my Sex, Dating & Technology series. 

We're talking all about foreplay which is my absolute favorite part of the whole sexual experience. Yes, really.  Orgasms are definitely great and I'm not opposed to one or two or three for that matter. However I enjoy drawing out the buildup for as long as I can take it which makes the end game so much sweeter. 

For most women, foreplay involves her entire body which includes stimulating every one of her senses. It isn't all about oral sex or focusing on all the obvious erogenous zones either.  That's easy.  I'm talking about communication, kissing, hugging, being caressed. The best foreplay is done with your full attention to whole package at hand (or mouth for that matter).

In my experience a lot of men rush right past foreplay.  And there's nothing worse than a guy going right for the clit. Because truth be told, that shit hurts! Many women cannot achieve an orgasm through intercourse alone (sorry fellas).

Foreplay awakens all the senses, preparing her for sex.  Women need to feel not only physically prepared but emotionally.  They want to feel wanted, needed, desired and most importantly comfortable and safe with you. For most women, foreplay will only enhance her orgasm making it a lot easier for her to achieve one in the end

Here are my Top 6 Foreplay Moves Women Love

1.  Kissing

There is nothing sexier to me than an old-fashioned make out session that can really get the juices flowing.  Kissing is a very intimate act and in most cases there's a lot of passion fueling a really good make out session. Use that. 

And if a man kisses my neck, you can call it a day.  Our neck area is far more sensitive than a man's.  Kissing the back of her neck and shoulders will really get her going so by the time you turn her around she'll be ready for more. 

Women also like being held so wrap your arms around her waist while you're kissing her.  There's nothing worse when you're making out with a guy and his arms are just hanging limp by his side.  Hey fellas, touch her, grab her and for fuck's sake kiss the hell out of her especially during sex.

2. Touch

Everyone has their hot buttons or what most refer to as erogenous zones.  Your neck, the small of your back, shoulders, nipples, ears all have nerve endings.   Make sure you're hitting all those hot spots in order to get your woman warmed up and ready for sex. 

And remember that it doesn't have to be sexual either. Hold her hand, put your arm around her, and rub her inner thigh under the table at dinner.  Light touching throughout the day or evening can create that build up for sex. So go ahead and make some contact!

3. Massage

Everyday life can be stressful and leaving that at the bedroom door can be hard for both parties.  But as you know, women have a tendency to overthink everything. We worry a lot and have a hard time shutting off our brains.  Offer up a nice back/shoulder massage. By having her on her stomach,  you are turning all her sexual zones away from you.

By all means, tease her by lightly brushing a hand across her inner thigh, bum and even her vagina.  This not only arouses the body but stimulates the brain.  But the main message you want to get across is that you aren't eager to get to the main event.  You're saying to her that you care about her needs and want her to relax. 

So have fun with it. 

4. Speak Up...Use technology

The brain is the largest sexual organ in the body.  Use it to your advantage.  Nowadays our main form of communication is through text messages. Make this apparent especially on the day you’re seeing one another or plan on getting it on that night.  Send her a quick text saying that you're excited to see her or that you've been thinking about being with her all day. Tell her what you want to do to her or what you want her to do to you. This will definitely make her crave you more and put her at ease.  Basically you're telling her that you want her just as much as she wants you.

5.  Be adventurous...take it outside the bedroom

Think back to high school and all those hot make out sessions in the car, on your couch or in the basement.  Shake things up and get a little adventurous.

Now I'm not saying to go park your car in broad daylight at Target (or maybe that's what you're into, no judgement). However, the next time you're both sitting in the car after dinner go ahead and find a secluded area and have at it.  Or start in the car and finish it up in the bedroom. 

Whatever you decide to do make sure that you're both comfortable with the situation and mix it up. Just the idea of getting caught can be exciting and really get your adrenaline going.

 

6.  Masturbate...together


I think masturbation gets a bad rep.  Masturbation is healthy and can also add to the buildup before sex. Spend an evening exploring your own bodies together.  Take a nice long, hot shower or bath then hop into bed. Use toys or even better use your hands. Once your partner knows how you like to get off on your own it will be much easier for them to follow suit. Even having an orgasm before sex can remove some of the pressure so you can really enjoy each others company. 

There have been several occasions either during foreplay or sex that I'll just go for it myself. You might think the guy would be offended but I don't think they minded at all. Some have even encouraged it.  There's a little voyeuristic nature in all of us, right? 

 

Just remember that everyone is different.  Some men I've been with definitely have a routine.  And while it's good to have some go to moves, all women aren't built the same way.  This is where being in touch with your partner on a deeper level comes into play.  Can you read her body movements?  Is she making any noise? Is she responding to what you're doing? 

Sex is great.  But having sex with someone you care about and is truly in tune with you, your needs and your body can really take the whole experience to another level of pleasure.

Tell me, what are some things that you enjoy?  What turns you on?  Guys, do you have any signature moves that have worked on some but not for others? What are some things you do to get in tune with your partner? 

Let me know in the comments below!

 

 

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