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Tracy is the creator of Tracys Way, a lifestyle blog based in and around the great city of Boston. On her weekly blog you can find her writings and sometimes rantings about life, love, sex, dating, food, travel and her feelings about entering her 40s.

Most importantly Tracy encourages women to look beyond the mirror and focus on cultivating self-awareness in order be confident with their body, their image and themselves.

Tracy currently resides just outside of Boston with her two fur kids Doug and Paul.

 

Sex, Dating & Technology:  5 Things to Do When Your Man is Having a Bad Day

Sex, Dating & Technology: 5 Things to Do When Your Man is Having a Bad Day

There will come a time when your man is in need of a little TLC.

Mine was having a bad day.  A very bad day.  I didn't even have to talk to him. I just knew.

We are very much the same in the sense that both of us have a hard time asking for help.  We are also the type of people who have the tendency to get trapped inside our own heads when we're stressed out. 

So I decided to do something about it.  Despite the crazy snowstorm that hit our area, I trudged out into the cold and snow to pick up stuff to make him dinner.  A dinner that I was happily going to deliver to his house so it would be waiting for him once he got home from work. 

However he didn't end up going to work. And when he found out what I had planned on doing for him, he decided to make the trip over to my house so we could sit down and have dinner together.

As we were sitting there I could literally feel his brain working over time.  I tried to talk about my day and what was going on with me but it didn't seem to take his mind off things. But I knew I wanted to do something to ease his mind. I just wasn't sure what exactly that was.

Fortunately for me, he let me know. Not with words but through actions. After dinner, he cuddled up next to me, lay his head on my chest, wrapped his arms around me and fell asleep. And in that moment I knew that's exactly what he needed. He was allowing himself to let go and let me care for him for a change, something a lot of men have a hard time doing. 

Later he told me it was the most relaxed he had felt all day. And that's exactly what I had wanted for him.  Because it was never about me.  Yes, I was happy that he appreciated the fact that I had made him a home cooked meal.  But my intention was to let him know that I was thinking about him and wanted to do something special just for him. Something I think he deserves more of.

Here are 5 Things To Do When Your Man is Having a Bad Day

1.  Give Him Space
Men aren't the best communicators when it comes to talking about their feelings.  So when they're having a bad day, most tend to retreat into themselves and want to be alone. LET HIM.  Give him the space he needs to be alone with his thoughts.  He may come talk to you later about it or he may not.  But even if he doesn't, he'll appreciate the fact that you were able to step away and let him be alone with his thoughts to work through it on his own.

2.  Listen to Him
Everyone needs a good venting session once in awhile. While men want to jump into action and fix the problem, women tend go in the opposite direction and start worrying about everything.  This can make the situation worse.  His intention isn't to make you worry or to fix his problem. He's coming to you so he can vent.  Purge all the bad shit. So if he starts talking to you, don't offer advice, don't try to fix the problem; just sit there and listen.

3.  Cuddle Up with Him
Men crave affection just as much as women do.  But they don't always know how to ask for it. A lot of times when a woman is having a tough day it's pretty much written all over her face. And the men in their lives will just grab them, hold them and plant endless forehead kisses until she starts smiling again. (yeah, those forehead kisses are everything). Being in tune with each other's moods is important.  So the next time you're sensing that your man isn't doing so hot, do exactly the same thing he would do for you.  Walk up to him, wrap your arms around him and let him know you're there for him. And maybe plant a forehead kiss or two.

4.  Be Nice to Him
Life gets busy.  We all have responsibilities and things that need to get done which can be very stressful at times.  But when it comes to being part of a couple, there will days when both of you are having a bad day. As I mentioned above, women are much better at expressing their emotions and normally have a lot of friends they can vent to. I'm not saying that men don't have any friends they can't talk to in times of stress but they're less likely to do so. Even if you're having a bad day, put it aside for just a little while and be there for him.  And only him.  Then go call your girlfriend and vent your little heart out. 

5.  Do Something For Him
Does he have a favorite meal?  Favorite drink? Favorite sport he likes to watch.  Sorry but men are pretty simple when it comes to things that make them happy.  Surprise him with a meal, go out and get his favorite beer.  Find the one thing that you know will make him feel relaxed and bring a smile to his face. Doing something specifically designed for him will definitely make his day. 

And if all else fails...just give him the best head of his life.  Trust me.  It works wonders :)

 

 

 

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