Sex, Dating & Technology: Top 5 Ways to Overcome Insecurity in Your Relationship
Everyone feels insecure about something in their life but your relationship should not be one of them.
People have busy lives. There are days that I'm running around doing errands and others I'm at home watching a movie or working on my blog.
It's not that the person you're in a relationship with isn't a priority but there are other things that will take precedence at times. And that's OK. Keeping the lines of communication wide open is important so there's no room left for doubt or any misunderstandings down the road.
So how do you combat feelings of insecurity when it comes to relationships?
Here are my Top 5 Ways to Overcome Insecurity
1. Don't Avoid Uncomfortable Conversations
If you're feeling insecure in your relationship try talking to your significant other about it. Yes it can be uncomfortable but it's important to be as open and honest as possible no matter how cringe worthy it makes you feel. Keep those lines of communication open so that you don't let things get built up inside. This will make the conversation more productive in the long run.
2. Don't Let Your Imagination Run Away With You
Stop psyching yourself out! When something happens that makes us feel insecure we tend to let our imaginations run wild. This is especially true when it comes to communicating via text message. I hate texting but it's a necessary evil in this age of technology. Women are more susceptible to thinking the worst case scenario possible when our man doesn't respond to us. But don't let those thoughts get the best of you. Try not to create problems that simply don't exist or go looking for things to be wrong.
3. Don't Let the Past Dictate the Present
No one likes rejection but that doesn't mean history is going to repeat itself. If you're always obsessing about the person leaving you in many cases it will eventually become a self fulfilling prophecy. Be confident in knowing your worth and the value you bring to your relationship. The person your with should recognize that and if they don't then you should be with someone who does. Everyone wants to be feel appreciated and you should never settle for anything less than what you deserve.
4. Don't Be Distrustful
Trust is very important when it comes to relationships. I wrote a post about 5 Signs You Can Trust Someone which you can read about here. Trusting someone can be hard especially if you've had your trust betrayed by someone in the past. But that doesn't mean the person you're with is going to do the same thing. Unless someone has done something to make you think you can't trust them, then you should trust them. It's really as simple as that.
5. Don't be Clingy or Needy
There's nothing worse than someone being up your ass 24/7. I understand that emergencies will come up but if you can't take care of yourself on a daily basis then it can definitely make the other person run in the other direction. Everyone needs personal space but for some reason giving someone space has a negative connotation. Try to think about it in a positive light. Having time to ourselves is important so that we can focus our attention on otheraspects of our life. That way when you're with each other you're not distracted by all the other things you need to do. You can focus all your attention on each other.
And missing someone is a good thing. It will make you appreciate the time that you have together a lot more.
How do you overcome feeling insecure in your relationship?
Let me know in the comments below.