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Tracy is the creator of Tracys Way, a lifestyle blog based in and around the great city of Boston. On her weekly blog you can find her writings and sometimes rantings about life, love, sex, dating, food, travel and her feelings about entering her 40s.

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Tracy currently resides just outside of Boston with her two fur kids Doug and Paul.

 

Sex, Dating & Technology:  Top 5 Signs He's Ready for a Relationship

Sex, Dating & Technology: Top 5 Signs He's Ready for a Relationship

I hate to say this but I hate labels.  They don't really have any real meaning to me.  As I've gotten older I've realized that having one doesn't guarantee anything and it certainly doesn't define who you are as a couple. 

At almost 41 years old telling people I have a "boyfriend" sounds really juvenile to me. So what do I say when asked about the man in my life?   It's pretty simple really.  I tell them that we care one another and we enjoy spending time together.

So are we in a relationship?  Yes.  Did we have the whole "where is this going, what are we doing" conversation.  No. 

But for those of you who are asking yourself this very question and need some sort of label to define your relationship, you shouldn't be asking if he's your boyfriend or if you're in a relationship. You should be asking yourself does he have the QUALITIES that say he's READY to be in a relationship

Here are my Top 5 Signs He's Ready for a Relationship

1.  Integrity
This is one of the most crucial signs if a man is ready to be in a relationship.  Is he consistent, does he do what he says he's going to do.  Do his words match his actions? Because who wants to live in that state of confusion.  I've always been one to do exactly what I say I'm going to do.  And if I can't then I'll let the person know.  There's nothing worse than disappointment so if his words don't consistently match his actions then he's most likely not ready or mature enough to handle a relationship.  With you or anyone else for that matter.  

2.  Emotional Stability
Can you talk about your feelings openly and honestly?  Does he listen to you when you talk to him?  Is he respectful of your feelings? Or does he get defensive or uncomfortable and completely shut down?  The same can be said about him.  Can he talk about his feelings openly and honestly?  Because if he can't express himself and you have to try and force it out of him then it's definitely a sign that he's not ready for a real relationship. Life gets hard.  You have to be able to communicate that with the person you're with. 

3.  Financial Stability
I have mixed feelings about this one.  Nowadays it's not all about the man supporting the woman financially.  In most households both people work and have careers.  However, can he support himself?  That's the more important question to ask yourself. Because the last thing you want to do is have to worry about his financial needs along with your own. I'm not saying you can't help each other out once in a while but the financial burden shouldn't fall on one person's shoulders. 

4.  You're not a Secret
Does the mention of you talking about him to your loved ones get him all riled up?  If so, then he's not serious about you.  On the flip side, has he spoken about you to his friends and family?  A man will want to talk about the important people in his life which should include you.  I'm not saying that a man is going to gush about you because most men simply don't do that.  But if they don't even know who you are then I hate to say that he's not as invested in you as you may think he is. 

5.  You've Talked About It
Having the whole, "what are we doing, where is this going?" conversation can be a bit daunting and downright scary for most men.  So ladies if it's a question that you really need answered just come right out and ask him.  I'm certainly not saying to do this after a few dates but if it's been a few months and you're really not seeing anyone else then go right ahead.  Ask him.  But try not to be demanding or catch him off guard.  Find a time when the two of you can talk and see what he has to say.  Just be prepared that you may not get the answer that you were hoping for. But at least you'll know where his head is at and then you can decide how you want to move forward.  With our without him.  

What are the things that you look for in a partner before getting into a relationship? 

Let me know in the comments below

 

 

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