Tracy is the creator of Tracys Way, a blog focused on whatever is happening in her life at the moment. Here you can find her writings and sometimes rantings about life, love, sex, dating, food, travel and her feelings about entering her 40s.

Most importantly Tracy encourages women to look beyond the mirror and focus on cultivating self-awareness in order be confident with their body, their image and themselves.

Tracy currently resides in Rhode Island her other half Chris and their 2 fur kids Doug and Honey.


Comment Courtesy - Responding vs. Reacting

Comment Courtesy - Responding vs. Reacting


A good friend of mine had posted what was intended to be a positive message regarding body image on YouTube. It was meant to empower women, lift their spirits and encourage them to be comfortable in their own skin.  Unfortunately it ended up taking a nasty turn when one individual decided that they didn't want to play nice in the sandbox.  Now you would think that one little blip in the internet universe wouldn't matter much but what ensued was baffling.  How could one little comment cause such an uproar and bring out the worst in people?

This got me thinking about what we deem as appropriate when it comes to commenting on the posts we read.  Everyone is entitled to their opinion however when does it is cross the line from being constructive to destructive.

Are you contributing to the conversation or are you taking away from it?  The internet has given people power. Both good and bad.  Good in the sense that it's given a voice to those who might not have had one otherwise and bad because it's given people a false sense of security hiding behind a keyboard

Ask yourself this, would you say it to the person's face?   I'd like to think of my fellow subscribers as part of my extended family.  I mean, we've all gathered in the same place because we share a common interest.  With that in mind would you ever speak to your family members in this manner? For me personally I would have to answer no.  Have I lost my temper and said things I wish I could take back? Of course but would I intentionally attack someone because their opinion differs from mine.  Absolutely not.

There will always be those who want to ruin it for the rest of us.  They are deliberately trying to hurt someone's feelings. And as much as you want to come to a person's rescue, don't lash out. Take a step back and ask yourself if it's worth getting into it with them because while your intentions are good you could end up looking like the bad guy.

I'm subscribed to a lot of blogs and sometimes I read comments that get me pretty fired up. My immediate reaction is to take them to task but then I think what good would it really do aside from blowing off steam.  It's certainly not going to change the overall situation never mind the views of that one particular individual.

So the next time you want to post a comment take a moment and respond rather than react because once your launch it into the internet universe you can't take it back.

Have you ever made comments on a blog post/YouTube video that you wish you could retract?

Let me know in the comments section below!




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